Where R U With Salsa?

To many, once you salsa, you get addicted and there’s no turning back. Kind of like falling in love I think. So here is my version of the phases of love with salsa. Kindly let me know if you agree, and if you do, which phase you are in!

1st Date

The first date is a tricky one. Sometimes you’re forced to go. Other times you just want to try something different. Most of the times, you’ve heard about it and wanted to check it out for yourself. At this stage, you’re still forming your opinion so Ms(or Mr) Salsa is still a vaguely shapeless entity you’re not sure you’re into. But if you definitely not into, you’ll know at this stage too and stop here.

Casual Dating

If you decided to go on a second date, that means you ‘sort of’ like what you tried. But you can still live without salsa just yet ;P. You are not in love enough to miss it. And fairly confident it’s nothing more than an evening fling you can live without. This period may last a few dates or as long as a few years… a platonic relationship that’s slowly but surely developing further. Little do you realize that you are nearing the Event Horizon (in astronomy terms, the point of no return; the line in the Black Hole when no object can escape being sucked in)

The Whirlwind Romance

This is the stage when you’ve fallen hook, line and sinker. You’re intoxicated. Like a whirlwind romance, you can’t get enough of each other. You think about it all the time, start to organize your life around it and can’t imagine not having it. Your salsa antics – if translated to a human relationship – would be like a couple madly in love.

The Stable Couple

The initial passion and excitement of a new relationship has come to an end… and you have now settled into a comfortable, cozy twosome. Your object of desire is now a big & regular part of your life you still can’t live without but now it’s fixed as a routine pattern already. This stage can go on forever, like a couple co-habiting, or can progress to The Married Couple.

The Married Couple

At this point, you’ve decided to live with salsa, for rich or poor, in sickness & in health. It has become so integral to your life that when people remind you how good you are, you go “huh?” having taken for granted how long you’ve devoted yourself to it and how much you’ve grown. Usually this stage are the people who are so devoted they took up teaching, performing, administrating, organizing festivals or some sort of salsa legwork with all its mundane stuff like taking care of the bills etc just like a married couple.

The Married Couple with Kids

Like a Mr & Mrs, you and salsa continue to grow together, still learning something new each day. Only this time, you have to divide time screaming after kids who won’t listen to you ;-P. It can be a tiring job raising kids and the only reward is to see them grow.


Can you relate to that? If so, which stage of the relationship are you at?